I don't read it everyday so my sequencing is a little off, but I found the Jan 4th entry very helpful because it's something I am struggling with at the moment - knowing when/how to end relationships that are not based on the right foundation.
http://utmost.org/why-can-i-not-follow-you-now/
Why Can I Not Follow You Now?
Jan 04 2012
Peter said to Him, ’Lord, why can I not follow You now?’ —John 13:37
There are times when you can’t understand why you cannot do what you want to do. When God brings a time of waiting, and appears to be unresponsive, don’t fill it with busyness, just wait. The time of waiting may come to teach you the meaning of sanctification— to be set apart from sin and made holy— or it may come after the process of sanctification has begun to teach you what service means. Never run before God gives you His direction. If you have the slightest doubt, then He is not guiding. Whenever there is doubt— wait.
At first you may see clearly what God’s will is— the severance of a friendship, the breaking off of a business relationship, or something else you feel is distinctly God’s will for you to do. But never act on the impulse of that feeling. If you do, you will cause difficult situations to arise which will take years to untangle. Wait for God’s timing and He will do it without any heartache or disappointment. When it is a question of the providential will of God, wait for God to move.
Peter did not wait for God. He predicted in his own mind where the test would come, and it came where he did not expect it. “I will lay down my life for Your sake.” Peter’s statement was honest but ignorant. “Jesus answered him, ’ . . . the rooster shall not crow till you have denied Me three times’ ” (John 13:38). This was said with a deeper knowledge of Peter than Peter had of himself. He could not follow Jesus because he did not know himself or his own capabilities well enough. Natural devotion may be enough to attract us to Jesus, to make us feel His irresistible charm, but it will never make us disciples. Natural devotion will deny Jesus, always falling short of what it means to truly follow Him.
Sometimes, in my zeal to be done with something that is not beneficial, I don't just turn around and walk away. I pour gasoline all over the bridge, strike several matches, step back, and watch it burn so to speak. Definitely not the most peaceful way to end a relationship. I am striving to be patient and wait on the Lord to show me how/when things will come to end....unless He intervenes and changes something about the relationship that would allow it to continue. At any rate, I need to stop running ahead and doing things on my own accord because it hasn't worked out very well to this point.
At first you may see clearly what God’s will is— the severance of a friendship, the breaking off of a business relationship, or something else you feel is distinctly God’s will for you to do. But never act on the impulse of that feeling. If you do, you will cause difficult situations to arise which will take years to untangle. Wait for God’s timing and He will do it without any heartache or disappointment. When it is a question of the providential will of God, wait for God to move.
Peter did not wait for God. He predicted in his own mind where the test would come, and it came where he did not expect it. “I will lay down my life for Your sake.” Peter’s statement was honest but ignorant. “Jesus answered him, ’ . . . the rooster shall not crow till you have denied Me three times’ ” (John 13:38). This was said with a deeper knowledge of Peter than Peter had of himself. He could not follow Jesus because he did not know himself or his own capabilities well enough. Natural devotion may be enough to attract us to Jesus, to make us feel His irresistible charm, but it will never make us disciples. Natural devotion will deny Jesus, always falling short of what it means to truly follow Him.
Sometimes, in my zeal to be done with something that is not beneficial, I don't just turn around and walk away. I pour gasoline all over the bridge, strike several matches, step back, and watch it burn so to speak. Definitely not the most peaceful way to end a relationship. I am striving to be patient and wait on the Lord to show me how/when things will come to end....unless He intervenes and changes something about the relationship that would allow it to continue. At any rate, I need to stop running ahead and doing things on my own accord because it hasn't worked out very well to this point.
I have trouble with this too. When I want out, I want out now. As much as I like a good fight, I don't like controversy - if that makes sense. Sometimes running in the opposite direction is good - sometimes not. That is my struggle.
ReplyDeleteMakes perfect sense. I appreciate laying it ALL on the table and then never having to revisit it again. Resolve and move on! Most people are not like that, I am finding.
ReplyDeletekeep your head up!!
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